I got an email from a reader asking about my decision to have a baby prior to getting more treatment for my torn hip labrum. In the email the reader wrote:
I am not a good candidate for surgery either… The doc has told me that in my shoes, she wouldn’t wait to have kids, if its something I’ve been planning for and wanting.
I’m just not sure what to do. It would be a shame to wait 8 months and be told I’m not a candidate for surgery anyway, but I want to be smart with my body, and avoid decisions that may negatively affect my ability to parent (because I can’t get up and play with my kids for example).
Background on my torn hip labrum
Though I tore my hip labrum in a car accident in my late twenties, I did not get a diagnosis until I was 31. My torn hip labrum was small enough that it did not show up in my first MRI. After seeking treatments from multiple orthopedic surgeons, chiropractors, and physical therapists without any improvement on my hip pain, I started wondering if the hip pain was all my head.
My last orthopedic surgeon recommended that I go ahead and have my first baby. Since your hip structure changes slightly with pregnancy, your hip pain might get worse or it might get better depending on the location of the tear. You can read more about this theory on my healing a torn hip labrum post.
I choose pregnancy!
I gave birth to a healthy baby girl a couple months ago at the age of 32. For the longest time, I felt like my life was “on hold” while I seek treatment for my hip pain. After my diagnosis, I realize it would take at least another one or two years to find an orthopedic surgeon willing to operate on my hip, recover, and then get pregnant. At this rate, I would be 33 or 34 years old. Since I want another baby spaced three years apart from my first baby, I might not have my second child until I am 39 years old. I do not want to be pregnant at 39 years old.
I’ve ready live with my hip pain for the last five years, it can wait a few more years since my symptoms have not gotten worse with time. I wanted to move forward with my life. I’ve been able to manage the hip pain with rehab exercises and foam rolling.
I understand that my decision to have babies mean that I cannot have surgery until my late 30s or early 40s (if I can even find an orthopedic surgeon willing to operate on what they consider a minor tear). I cannot have downtime until my last child is at least three years of age. I rather go ahead and start my family while my “eggs” are still healthy. As you should know, your “eggs” are healthiest in your 20s and decreasing exponentially as you approach your mid-30s.
Torn hip labrum post pregnancy
During the first five weeks of recovery from the birth of my baby, my torn hip labrum really hurt. But once the relaxin hormone slowly decrease in my body, my hip pain went back to its pre-pregnancy level. My hip pain did not decrease or increase after my pregnancy, but there were moments when it did both during my pregnancy. I am okay with that. After all, I gained a healthy baby girl.
Until next time and thanks for stopping by Small Steps to Health.
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