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A few times a month, my workout buddy and I exchange emails about the progress we made exercising and eating healthy. My workout buddy is trying to lose his beer belly and I want to lose some vanity weight for my wedding. Our social circle overlaps so we see each other occasionally, but not on a daily basis. This is a very important criterion for me when I pick my workout buddy. I do not want someone to become immune to the incremental progress I make with daily interactions. But since we see each other occasionally, it keeps me honest.
This morning I got an email from my workout buddy with the subject line that said “My Wife is Packing My Lunch Again!” With a sinking heart, I read about the extra desserts and supersize meals that Mrs. Workout Buddy stuffs into his brown bag lunches. How much willpower can a person have when they find their favorite dessert in their lunch bag every day? You would think that your spouse would be happy that you lost weight, but that is certainly not the case in their relationship. Nor do I think this is a unique situation. Sometimes not only do we have to deal with self sabotage, but also sabotage from love ones when we are trying to lose weight.
In any given relationship, we subconsciously (or consciously) assign roles to the people in our lives, whether it is the fat husband or the thin friend. Sure it is not always about weight, but unlike an internet “friend” where we might never know what the “friend” looks like, we know what our spouse and our friends look like. We come to expect our spouse and friends to look a certain way with only minor tweaks to their bodies. And when they start to change their bodies, well, some people do not react well to change. Is it fair to expect no reaction when we decide to make a lifestyle change? But is it fair to expect us to play the same role among our family and friends all the time?
I have no answer to this dilemma other than to tell my workout buddy to involve Mrs. Workout Buddy in his lifestyle change. They are a team and should be rooting for each other. Truthfully I think this sabotage is less about him than about her. Maybe there is some underlying self-esteem issue that is hidden behind her outgoing smile.
Until next time and thanks for stopping by.
Photo by: Crystal.
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