Over at Cranky Fitness, Merry pose the question of why do people get so emotional about diets. I think people get so emotional about their diets because they are emotional about either their or someone else’s weight. The entire spectrum of human emotions can be associated with weight in our culture. You can be jealous, disappointed, frustrated, angry, happy, etc either about your own weight or someone else’s weight.
A hundred years ago, the primary concern with weight is rather you are well fed and disease free. Now diet is a dirty four letter word. It changed from what you can eat that will not kill outright to what you cannot eat to keep your hips pubescent.
In my family of three girls, I have to say that each of us is approximately 5 pounds heavier than we would like. None of us are overweight. And yet, my dad seems to have an issue with our weight because we are not as slender as the typical Chinese woman. I know that his disappointment with his daughters’ weight is based upon his own fears that he is getting heavier as he aged. He is frustrated with himself. It has nothing to do with his girls. But it sure does not make it any easier.
But everything is relative. Like my friend, Nina, said, she loves being around Caucasian women because she looks so small in comparison. And I do not like being around my in-laws because I am a giant at 5’2” among the 4’8” Vietnamese women.
So is the moral of the story to surround yourself with people that are heavier than you? Denial is a river in Egypt. (Get it? The Nile?) It has no place in your life if you want to own your life.
My mom always says that “no matter how pretty you are – there will always be someone prettier and someone uglier. No matter how thin you are – there will always be someone thinner and someone fatter. Just be glad that you are not cold and hungry when you go to bed at night.” I always hated it when she said that to me in my youth whenever I complain about my looks during my teens. I am slowly starting to understand the wisdom in those words. And maybe, just maybe, someday I might be able to feel the self-confidence I fake so well when I am among my in-laws.
Until next time and thanks for stopping by Small Steps to Health.
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