3 Blogging Questions and Eye Rolling

by Annie on October 10, 2008 · 4 comments

in Blogging & Off Topics

Photo by Mike Licht

Reading this post on The Fight for Fitness the other day made me realize why I do not like to tell people that I write a health and fitness blog. To begin with, I always feel that I am a dorky engineer. :D Though my last job required a lot of public speaking, deep down inside I know I am an introvert. So dorkiness, introvert, and blogging – well, I feel like that is not enough qualifications to judge anyone’s eating or exercise habits. Nor do I give any advice, other than what I write on my blog. But inevitably I get ask these three questions:

1. Why do I eat so much?
I take my own advice and eat all day long, but most meals are rarely more than 300 calories. But once people know that I write a health and fitness blog, the first thing they ask is why do I eat so much? Because I am hungry?! My co-workers snicker at my second breakfast and my snack at 3:30pm, making doomsday comments like ‘you can’t continue to eat like this once you have kids.’ An apple or some cottage cheese is not the reason why anyone gains weight.

The healthier you eat, the more you get to eat. Eating is one of the rare examples where quantity increases with quality. For example, an apple has much less calories than a slice of apple pie. I get to eat a larger baked potato if I chose that over a side of fries. It is a simple concept.

2. How much do I workout?
Everyday. Even on my rest day, I am doing something physical like yoga or walking with my husband. I can already see the wheels cranking in their brains to come up with the next doomsday comments like ‘since you do not have any kids, I guess you have time to workout.’

Obviously these people have not read any of the great mommy blogs about squeezing in workouts. Cindy from Go Workout Mom and Lisa from Workout Mommy can probably should these doomsayers a thing or two about how the roles of being a mom and a couch potato is not the same. All it takes is ten minutes, three or four times a day, every day, and you can change how you squeeze in exercise on in a busy schedule.

We have to get people to understand that health is not something that you work on when you do not have any kids or when you are trying to attract a mate. It is not about the destination, but the journey that counts. The time to work on your physically mobility is when you have it, not when you lost it.

3. How come I am not skinnier?
This question is a great test to my patience and willpower – ‘I will not roll my eyes and tell these people they are idiots. I will not roll my eyes and tell these people they are idiots. I will not roll……….’

The fact that I do not have batwings when I wave or that I do field work all day in my steel toes is no accomplishment in the eyes of the doomsayers. There is a lady at work who is my age and height, but weighs about 110 pounds. She looks great when she is sitting or standing, but can never walk for more than 15 minutes without resting.

I take great joy in walking and moving because I was not able to do so when I was recovering from my car accident a few years ago. I am not so much concern with weight, as I am in being able to keep up with my husband when we go on vacations. It delights me when I out walked my husband at the end of the day or climbed the pyramids in Mexico when it used to take me 20 minutes to walk to the end of my block. But how can you express that to people without them asking details about an accident that you cannot talk about without a tinge of bitterness and anger at the other driver?

So I look them straight in the eye and tell them ‘since my car accident, my back hurts when I do not get enough movement in during the day.’ And they sagely nod their heads and change the subject.

Until next time and thanks for stopping by Small Steps to Health.

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LisaNewton October 10, 2008 at 7:09 pm

People have so many sterotypes about what they consider healthy; thinness, exercise, food, recipes, etc. The people who ask you questions are the same people who think someone has to be bone thin or a marathoner to be “fit and healthy.”

Sometimes, I wonder if it occurs to them that many “thin” people are unhealthy in regards to fitness and food. A person can eat crap and still be thin.

LisaNewtons last blog post……What is your number one top fat loss tip for anyone wanting to START fat blasting?


MikeB October 11, 2008 at 2:59 am

I get simular comments myself only the other direction. I’m a guy so I hear; If you workout why aren’t you bigger and you should eat more. It’s funny how people sterotype genders into what they think is a healthy look.

At my last physical my doctor told me; “What ever you’re doing keep doing it.” That works for me.

MikeBs last blog post……Cyclocross Race Report


asithi October 14, 2008 at 10:27 am

@MikeB and @LisaNewton – maybe that’s it – the stereotype of what a “fit individual” should look like. Since writing this blog, I have spent more time looking at body shapes (I mean really looking without judging) and I finally realize that we are all so different.

It is amazing how you can line up 10 individuals with the same weight and everyone’s body can look so different. It’s like food manufacturer’s and their flavor trick. Add some weight on top, you have one body shape. Add some weight in the top and bottom, you have another body shape.

Depending on how you distribute the weight and muscle mass, you can come up with an infinite combination for body shapes for the same weight. But the sad thing is that there is only ONE or TWO body shapes that is considered “fit and healthy” in our society.


Tom Parker October 15, 2008 at 3:00 pm

I hear you. I eat about five or six mini meals per day and get constant snipes about “eating all the time”.

I’ve had the one about why aren’t you bigger too. It really annoys me as I am naturally very skinny and I have built myself to what I would consider an average build. However, the people who never knew me when I was very skinny still always have something to say because they haven’t seen the change.

Overall, I think the best approach is just to ignore what people say and get on with it. Yes it is nice to hear positive comments but your ultimate goal with fitness shouldn’t be just to impress other people.

Tom Parkers last blog post……Vitamin D Explained


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